INTJs can be peculiar about many things, but hey, so can other personality types. If you want to know what INTJs hate, you’ll take time to read this list below. While this list isn’t all-inclusive (and every INTJ can be different), most INTJs will hate the things I mention below.
Therefore, if you want to keep an INTJ happy, you’d do well to keep these twelve things in mind. Here are 12 things that most INTJs hate.
12 Things Most INTJs Hate
- Most INTJs hate to repeat something, especially several times. Most INTJs will speak and answer something very directly. When asked to repeat ourselves many times, we can become irritated.
- Most INTJs hate dealing with gifts. Everything becomes a giant puzzle as we try to decipher what to get, for whom we should buy gifts, and more. The need to reciprocate, combined with the stress of trying to decipher how much to spend, when to buy, etc. can be overwhelming for INTJs. Read more about INTJs and gifts.
- Most INTJs hate interruptions. If you interrupt us over some trivial thing while we are busy, we may get irritated. Even worse, if you cut us off while we’re in the middle of saying something, it can annoy us tremendously. I can’t stand to watch some pundit on television cutting off a guest every second (aka, Chris Matthews or Piers Morgan…Ugh).
- Most INTJs don’t like manipulators. We usually have a radar for sensing manipulators or flattery, and we often loathe that kind of behavior. It’s best to be direct with an INTJ. Don’t drop hints or try to manipulate us. Besides, it probably won’t work.
- Most INTJs hate group work. We prefer autonomy and to work alone. We’re happy to collaborate with people or get other’s input, but when working, we go into deep concentration mode and don’t like to deal with others. The most dreadful words in school were, “group project.”
- Most INTJs hate for someone to waste our time. We probably have a “to do” list for nearly every area of our life, and our time on this earth is limited. Even our leisure is planned or has some purpose. Don’t call us up unless you have something meaningful to say. Don’t ask us to hang out unless there is some purpose.
- Most INTJs hate small talk and talking on the phone. It’s awkward, and it’s exhausting—all at the same time.
- Most INTJs hate an illogical argument or irrational behavior. If you try to convince us of something without presenting some compelling evidence or argument, we’ll likely be skeptical.
- INTJs hate for their plans to fail. Although we often create contingencies, it can make us feel like a failure. We want to excel in everything, and we plan for success.
- INTJs hate uninvited visitors to our home. I loathe this, perhaps more than average since I also work at home. By my house is my fortress of solitude. It’s my safety bubble away from this crazy world, and it’s where I can recharge my batteries. When people randomly visit unannounced, it throws off my whole plans. Plus, I sometimes like to lounge around in my pajamas, and I don’t like going to the door in that state.
- INTJs hate arrogant know-it-alls. Here’s a quote I like: “People who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do” (Isaac Asimov). INTJs can be wrong, of course. However, we tend to know what we know, and when we don’t, we have no problem in using these three words: “I don’t know.”
- Traditions for the sake of tradition. Has your company honored some tradition for the past 50 years? The INTJ doesn’t care. Traditions mean next to nothing to most INTJs. The INTJ looks for new possibilities, opportunities, and efficiencies. If he or she sees no purpose in honoring some fabricated tradition, the INTJ will likely ignore it.
In conclusion, most INTJs hate those twelve things. It’s not that we’ll always respond in a rude or mean way, but those things will generally irritate us. And if you irritate an INTJ enough, it can be bad. INTJs are known for having a long fuse with a bomb at the end of it. We may abruptly quit a job, cut off a relationship, and so forth.
You’ve been warned =).