What’s the best cologne (or perfume) for men? That’s a great question. After all, if you want to smell your best, you’ll probably want to wear a popular brand of men’s cologne. Popular cologne fragrances tend to be popular for a reason: most people like them.
Below are some of the top brands that I would recommend for men of all ages.
Best Cologne for Men
The number one rule when dating (or married) is this: Wear (or do) what your woman likes! Never forget that rule as long as you live, and it will serve you well all the days of your life. Happy wife, happy life.
Therefore, if your woman has a preferred scent, stick with that. You might even want to take her cologne shopping and let her sample the different scents so that you can buy accordingly.
Assuming your woman doesn’t have a preferred scent (or you’re single), below are some of my top cologne brands for men (INTJs or otherwise):
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5. “Code” by Armani (retails around $60)
4. “Aventus” by Creed (retails around $199)
3. “The One” by Dolce & Gabbana (retails around $45)
2. “1 Million” by Paco Rabanne (retails around $55)
1. “Fierce” by Abercrombie & Fitch (retails around $54)
The cologne that I use most is “Fierce” by Abercrombie and Fitch. My wife loves it, and she always wants me to wear it. It is a fairly popular cologne for men (or even younger boys). My wife even sprays it on our two-year-old son, not to mention all of my clothes in the closet. She loves it.
INTJ and MBTI Scents and Cologne
Since this website is about INTJs, I’ll tie this in with MBTI. Here’s the first thing you need to learn, guys: Sensors LOVE to smell things. In fact, most “S” types have noses like bloodhounds. They can pick up a scent from miles away (good or bad). Therefore, if you’re dating a sensing type, it’s even more important that you take the time to smell great.
If you’re dating a person with Extroverted Sensing (Se) in the upper half of their functional stack, they’ll notice your scent quickly. They love to live in the moment and indulge in sensory stuff. Introverted Sensing (Si), on the other hand, is a bit different. Si types will also notice scents and enjoy them, but they will quickly relate things to the past.
My wife is an ISFJ, and Introverted Sensing (Si) is her dominant function. She’s always smelling things and saying, “This reminds me of…” In fact, she even loves to smell my beard (weird, I know). She says that she can smell certain oils in it, and it reminds her of when we were first dating.
The bottom line is this: Si can sometimes attach memories or significant pieces of information to sensory information that will later be recalled by the individual. Hence, if you can form a good sensory impression, and it can pay off. If another man walks by with the same cologne that you wear, your “Si” woman will be thinking more about you. (Disclaimer: This is MBTI “Bro Science” that you’re learning, lol).
Intuitive types, on the other hand, aren’t as quick to pick up on scents because they’re too busy thinking of abstract possibilities in their heads. Intuitives aren’t as “tuned in” to their concrete world as compared to sensing types, though they still smell things, of course. In fact, “N” types will have their sensing function in the tertiary or inferior position in their cognitive function stack.
Furthermore, some sensory information (strong scents, loud sounds, or bright lights) can even create a headache or unpleasant feeling for some intuitive types. The same also seems to be true for “highly sensitive persons” (HSP) or those with Asperger’s syndrome. Strong smells from excessive perfumes or candles, for example, can give me (an INTJ) a headache, and I’ve even had arguments with my wife about how long she can keep the Glade plug-in in the outlet before I develop a headache.
How Much Cologne Should You Use?
Here’s my general suggestion about wearing cologne, but please adjust it as needed (or as your woman prefers): If you’re going on a first date with an intuitive type, you might want to stick with only one or two squirts (or dabs) of cologne. It’s better to have too little than too much, but you still want to smell great.
For sensing types, you can probably be a bit more bold and do two to four squirts (or dabs) of cologne. They’ll eat it up, especially if they like the scent. They’ll probably even comment about it right away. Sensing types just seem to notice smells quickly.
Where Should You Spray Your Cologne?
Where should you spray your cologne? First, you can do it on the skin. You can put it behind your ears, on your neck (over the jugular vein), or on the wrists.
You can also spray it on your clothes (or mix it up and do both skin and clothes). I usually apply it to the top of my shirt, right around the area where my wife’s face reaches when she gives me a hug (I’m several inches taller than she is). She loves to sniff me every time she gives me a hug.
Conclusion: Scents Matter in MBTI
In conclusion, intuitive and sensors alike enjoy good-smelling scents. However, sensing types will notice them more quickly, and maybe even attach vivid memories to the smell. They’ll want to indulge in all types sensory information.
Intuitive types also enjoy good-smelling scents, but they probably won’t be as “in tune” with them as compared to sensing types. Excessively strong smells can give intuitive types a headache, especially INTJs or INFJs. Therefore, watch the number of squirts that you put on when dating them. It’s better to have too little than too much with an intuitive.