INTJs are one of the most independent of all the sixteen personality types, and they have a strong sense of individuality. We’re lone wolves. According to atakis.com, “INTJs are fiercely independent people who will answer to no rule but reason.” That’s 100% true.
In this article and video, I’ll discuss how INTJs are independent in though, independent in deed, and some ways my independence has been expressed.
INTJ Independence in Thought
INTJs are incredibly independent thinkers. Our minds are capable of creating a plethora of ideas and unique solutions. We also enjoy learning things on our own. I think most INTJs are autodidacts (self-taught). Isaac Newton, for example, was largely self-taught in mathematics. I love learning by myself by reading books, experimenting, etc.
INTJs disregard things like authority, the status quo, or peer pressure when making a decision or forming an opinion. We will judge every statement or idea by its own merit, using our own analysis of reason, logic, and pattern seeking in the process. We don’t need affirmation or agreement from others. That’s not to say that we disrespect authority, but just that we disregard it when making decisions.
For example, a couple of years ago I put up a tile backsplash in our kitchen. The man at Lowe’s recommended a certain product and said that you can put it directly onto the drywall. Even though he was nice and seemed knowledgeable, I still spent some time researching it on the internet and reading the instructions to make sure the product would secure the tile to the wall (which it has!). That’s the key: INTJs have skepticism toward any statement and seeks to fact-check or analyze the statement to ensure its accuracy. This is in contrast to other personality types who give much more weight to authority or tradition.
In addition, INTJs aren’t fazed by criticism or ridicule of their ideas or beliefs. Why? It’s because the INTJ will spend time analyzing a matter before forming a strong opinion, but once they’ve formed that opinion, they will often be dogmatically stubborn about it. They may not like the criticism from others, but it won’t faze them in their independence of thought. An INTJ won’t care if people disagree with his or her views. INTJs stay true to themselves, and highly independent in their own beliefs.
The only way to get an INTJ to change his or her mind is through reasoning. You have to show the INTJ why they are wrong using logic and reason. Then, the INTJ will change his or her position—not because of your influence, but because you’ve given them new information which they have reassessed and independently verified and accepted as accurate.
INTJ Independence in Deed
INTJs are also independent in deed. They don’t like to be controlled. In fact, INTJs get a sense of peace and security by having a sense of control and independence. You can always say that control is really just an illusion, but it is still crucial for the INTJ.
INTJs don’t like to be controlled by arbitrary rules, and they may rebel against it. They dislike any threat to their individuality.
They can also be emotionally independent. They will often conceal their emotions to those outside of their inner circle. This causes them to appear detached or emotionless to people who don’t know the INTJ well–hence, the “robot” stereotype. However, INTJs do feel things very deeply and can even be quite sensitive to rejection or criticism.
Moreover, INTJs are socially independent. There isn’t as strong of a need for friendships or social acceptance for the INTJ, and they are not quick to affiliate with clubs, organizations, or other social rituals.
Ways I’ve Been Independent
Here are some of the ways that I’ve been independent as an INTJ personality type.
- I rarely ask for help. I usually get online and research something or buy a book to help me understand something. I’ve built an addition onto a house with no training other than reading a book I bought at Lowe’s.
- I cut my own hair (and my wife/son’s hair, too).
- I’ve never liked being bossed around or put in a situation where I have no influence.
- I change my own oil, antifreeze, rotate tires, and perform basic maintenance on my car and lawn equipment.
- I love do-it-yourself projects. I remodeled our house. I painted, put down flooring, and change fixtures.
- I can remember when my wife and I first had our son. We had a cold winter, and the pipe froze one night. We were both so exhausted and sleep deprived. I dragged myself out to Lowe’s, bought some PVC pipe and joint cement, tore out the drywall, and fixed the pipe.
- I do my own taxes and manage all of the finances.
- I hate big government and the fact that the government is constantly finding ways to steal away our God-given liberty. I hate political parties or ideologies that suggest government-reliance instead of self-reliance. Hence, I hate communism and socialism with a passion.
- I almost didn’t buy our house because the wording in the description seemed as if it might be a part of a Homeowner’s Association (HOA). I HATE it when people dictate what I can and can’t do with my own property, including the government. (I also hate how HOA fees are unpredictable and subject to change.) I also loathe the fact that most places won’t allow you to plant a tree, build a fence, or remodel without getting a building permit. Some “free” country we live in!
- I’ve fantasized about building my own house in the woods, creating an off-the-grid system of energy, and so forth.
- I hate having to conform to some arbitrary rules or standards with no basis in reality or logic.
- I hate being in some kind of debt to someone. That’s one reason I think I dislike things like gift exchanges, doing “favors” (I’d rather just pay someone to do something for me or help someone), or borrowing things from people. It makes me feel a never-ending obligation to reciprocate.
- I have rarely joined any formal clubs throughout my life. Things like fraternities and similar clubs have never appealed to me. I can see an INTJ joining a club if there is some rational reason to, but most won’t do it for the sake of social acceptance. Church is an exception to this.
- My wife and I didn’t have a wedding—we eloped!
- I didn’t attend my college graduation. I just picked up my diploma from the university and left. (Why should I want to sit for four hours with a bunch of people I don’t know, only to walk across a stage and shake some stranger’s hand?)
- I will leave a situation if I feel like the leader is incompetent (assuming I have no way to control or change the situation).
In conclusion, INTJs are extremely independent–probably the most independent of all sixteen personality types. We have this incessant need to predict and influence our environment, and when we feel like we’re losing control, we hate it.