How do INTJs tend to approach social media? Do INTJs like websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Myspace, etc.? As an INTJ, I’ve never had the slightest interest in social media on a personal level, and that’s true for most of the INTJs I’ve known personally.
However, I have sometimes used it for business purposes. I’m not saying social media is 100% worthless, but I very much dislike it. I’ll tell you my reasons why, but I’ll also give you some reasons why an INTJ may want to use social media.
Why INTJs Often Hate Social Media
Social media violates some basic INTJ personality characteristics:
- Unless done anonymously, social media forces you to reveal some aspects of your personal life to people you know. This goes against a big trait of most INTJs: Secrecy and Privacy. INTJs can be one of the most private personality types, so we’re cautious in what we reveal to others.
- Social media allows for easy accessibility. I very much dislike the fact that some old romance or past enemy could contact you at will. They could tweet at you, send a friend request, invite you to random events (which you’ll likely turn down), or whatever. I’ve been told numerous times, “You’re a difficult man to contact,” and I like it that way.
- Social media complicates relationships. You may decide to break off a friendship or romantic relationship, but the dilemma here is that the person is on your “friend list” (or may send you a friend request). Then, you have all of these other issues like, “If I post a picture of this friend, another friend may get jealous.” Or, “I can’t add this person without also adding this person.” It creates an endless scenario of “if, then” situations or dilemmas, which I hate.
- Social media prevents closure. Let’s say you have a rift with a friend or romantic person, and you’re ready to move on. Social media makes that hard because they can easily contact you again, or you may be tempted to check their profiles. So you don’t get the same sense of closure that you could have had before social media came along. I envy people who lived even 100 years ago, because when they moved on from a relationship, they probably never had to see the person again.
- Social media wastes time that I could use to further my goals. A huge amount of time is wasted on social media by responding to invitations, friend requests, comments, etc. It just isn’t productive or helpful (in most cases).
Having made the above points, it can make sense for an INTJ to use social media.
Reasons an INTJ Might Use Social Media
1. You may have no other reasonable means to keep contact with family members or acquaintances. One viewer left a comment about how social media helps them to “keep some close friends or people I interact with through work on a regular basis at the right distance away from me to cut out all the catching up small talk conversations.” I can definitely see how that could be a benefit.
2. You can use it to promote a business or project. However, I haven’t found that it’s hugely useful for that, but some people have had greater success. Some sites like LinkedIn may help an INTJ land a job. If you know a way to leverage social media to grow your business, then I can see its value. And some social media sites (YouTube, for example) allow you to monetize content.
3. You can use it to meet new people (friends/romantic interests). INTJs often communicate better in writing, so meeting people online can be helpful until the relationship becomes more established.
4. You can be an immature troll. Some INTJs may use social media platforms to incite debates, troll, or publish content anonymously.
In conclusion, most INTJs prefer to stay away from social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and others. However, some INTJs use social media to further their careers, keep contact with family/friends, and other purposes. If an INTJ does use social media, he or she will probably only use it (judiciously) for some logical purpose.