One of the problems for the INTJ type is overthinking. We think so much that it hurts, literally. I often develop tension in my frontal lobe area of my brain. Perhaps INTJs utilize that area of the brain more than other types. I’ve often said that I wish I had a switch on my brain that I could shut off when I wanted to stop thinking.
While thinking can be a great asset for the INTJ, thinking too much can be a bad thing. First, it’s hard to escape your mind and live more in the moment. This can translate to relationship issues because you will appear aloof and distracted to others. You’ll also probably have the death stare on your face.
Another problem is that you can actually exhaust yourself, and your thinking won’t be quite as efficient. You may find that your work slacks off, or whatever.
Third, you can actually overanalyze things and blow them up in your mind. Problems that are relatively easy to solve can become incredibly complex with overthinking.
So, in this video, I’m going to talk about how you can relax your brain and stop thinking so much. These tips have helped me, and I hope they help you.
How To Stop Thinking So Much
First, I’ll discuss how I stop thinking when I’m spending time with another person. When I’m talking to my wife, I sometimes have to force myself to stop thinking about whatever it is I’m thinking about. In other words, I have to force myself to focus on my surrounds, the words my wife is saying, etc.
This is most difficult for me after I finish working. When I find my mind drifting, I have to correct that. Therefore, I focus very carefully on the words my wife is saying. I make direct eye contact with her. If I catch myself drifting, I refocus.
That’s the only tip I can offer to escape your mind and focus on others. However, sometimes you just want to escape your mind when you’re alone. How can you do that? Take in sensory information.
INTJs are intuitives, and extroverted sensing is one of our weakest cognitive functions (it’s our fourth, to be exact). So to escape your mind, you’ll need to indulge in your surroundings. Here’s how to do that:
- Sensory via the auditory system: Listening to music helps ease my brain tension. I find that it relaxes me a bit. It helps me to escape some of those thoughts.
- Physical sensory: Getting a massage also relaxes me. Working out is also good. Physical intimacy is also a very powerful way to do it. Finally, I find that it helps tremendously to do some task. For example, finishing my basement, washing a car, repairing something. Those things seem to utilize a different part of my brain, and it helps to relax the other part that has the tension.
- Visual sensory: Watching a movie or going outside and observing scenery also helps me to stop thinking.
- Eating: There’s nothing like a good meal.
Any of the above can help you. It helps even more if you combine multiple sensory experiences. For example, eat a snack while watching and listening to a good movie. Listen to music while you wash your car, etc. This will relax your mind and make you feel more energized.
Thinking Instead of Sleeping
Finally, thinking too much can also cause sleep issues. I’ve mentioned this before in an article on INTJ sleep habits, but if I wake up in the middle of the night and start thinking, I’ll be awake for at least an hour or two. I hate that!
To defeat sleep interruptions from my own brain, I do one of two things. First, I use white noise. I have a small fan that I bought for around $12 or so. I turn it on and place it beside my head (on my nightstand). It helps to drown out my own thoughts.
Second, if I have trouble falling asleep (which is rare for me), I find that by listening to the television (or a sermon), I get extremely drowsy. Reading can also help.
I hope that helps you other INTJs!